Miraculous coincidences happened to me during my whole life. Things worked out for me even though theoretically this was highly impossible. When it was obvious for others that stars just cannot line up, somehow they did for me most of the times.
- I managed to get access to the doctors and tests fast when waiting time was 2-4 months
- I jumped through bureaucratic barriers and got my immigration papers done so quickly, the Embassy clerks couldn’t believe it
- I found jobs when it was seemingly impossible
- I met random people who helped me achieve my goals all the time
Some people call me lucky, but this is not true. I call myself fortunate.
Lucky vs. Fortunate
In my mind, the difference between lucky and fortunate is the amount of work you’ve invested plus the secret sauce. If you win a lottery, you are lucky. If you diligently searched for a job and found it, you are fortunate. There are other people out there who worked just as hard to get that job and did not succeed. If you did, this is a good fortune.
Yes, when I really want something, I work hard. This is not the only secret to my fortune, though. After all, many people work hard and end up with nothing.
The Secret Sauce To Getting What You Want
When my friends and family get in distress, they sometimes turn to me for an advice. I noticed that when I think there are high chances for them to succeed, and tell them how, they don’t believe so. They usually turn my ideas down with multiple phrases starting with “Yes, but….”
Sometimes, I catch myself doing it, too.
When I started my first health-related website , I won’t lie to you, I had the following “Yes, buts” in my head:
- Yes, but you cannot complete with brilliant bloggers whose native tongue is English
- Yes, but you don’t know how
- Yes, but who will listen to me, I am not a doctor
- Yes, but I cannot compete with big companies with a lot of money
- Yes, but I don’t have enough time.
The difference between me and those who end up not succeeding, is that I quickly finish this mental argument with a thought “When there is a will, there is a way. Just do it. It will work out.” And it always does.
And this is how, my friends, I found out what the secret sauce to my success is.
- I believe it is possible to do, I just don’t know how
- I believe that if there is a small possibility for the situation to be resolved, this is good enough reason for me to do anything within the confines of law and ethics to make it happen.
- I refuse to accept rules, previous experience, obstacles that are there, right into my face, telling me that what I want is not possible.
- I do not use pushy tactics. I politely recruit others to help me achieve my goal. I share my vision and someone usually has a missing piece of the puzzle.
- I return favors. I never forget anything good people did for me
See, there reason most people turn down my ideas is because they match them to the current rules and understand that logically their chances are very small. To the contrary, I am thinking positively, believing that there must be the way, it is just not obvious to me. Perhaps, others know something I don’t know. If I explain to them what I want and why, they may be inclined to help me.
And you know what? They often do help. Helping others makes them feel good about themselves, and there is nothing wrong in bringing this positive feeling in other people’s life.
Instead of counting reasons why something cannot be done, I am busy brainstorming what can I do and who should I ask for help to make it happen.
Remember, in life your knowledge about any topic is limited. There is always someone else who has another perspective that you may not have thought about.
If you believe it is possible, people will share it with you, and you may find another way to get what you want when everyone else just gives up.
Open your mind to this idea, and you will be as fortunate as I.